When I turned 50, I didn’t panic.
But I did pause.
Not to reflect on what I hadn’t done, but to double down on what really mattered—what truly made a difference in how I felt, how I aged, and how I showed up for myself and others.
Now, at 54, I can say this with clarity:
Your habits matter more with every passing year.
They don’t just shape how you look or what you weigh.
They shape your energy, your mood, your resilience, your peace of mind.
I’ve spent my career helping others heal. But these five habits? They’re how I stay whole.
They’re not glamorous. They’re not perfect.
But I refuse to skip them. Because they keep me strong—inside and out.
1. I Never Skip Breakfast—Ever
Breakfast isn’t optional for me. It never has been.
It’s the first anchor of my day—and my defense against chaos.
Back when I was practicing full-time in clinic, I never knew what the day would hold: back-to-back patients, emergency calls, skipped lunches. But I always started with my smoothie.
It’s simple. Fast. Intentional. And nutrient-packed.
Here’s what’s in it:
Mostly vegetables (yes, really—greens, cauliflower, even zucchini)
A bit of frozen fruit for flavor and antioxidants
Plant-based protein for satiety and muscle support
Unsweetened soy milk for extra protein and creaminess
It fuels my brain, balances my blood sugar, and keeps me grounded—even if the rest of the day unravels.
This one habit protects me more than any supplement ever could.
2. I Get Outside Within 30 Minutes of Waking
No matter what’s happening in my day, I make time to step outside.
Just five to ten minutes of morning light helps set my internal clock, stabilizes hormones, improves sleep, and gives me a natural mood lift. It’s the simplest form of self-regulation I know.
That light tells my body:
“It’s time to wake up. You’re safe. Let’s begin.”
And sometimes, I whisper a reminder:
“You are one healing habit away.”
3. I Pause Before the World Gets Loud
Before I open my inbox or glance at my phone, I take a mindful pause.
Sometimes it’s a few deep breaths. Sometimes I set an intention. Sometimes I just sit in silence and listen.
This 2-minute pause keeps me from diving into reactivity.
It gives my brain space to lead with purpose—not panic.
It’s not about a perfect morning routine.
It’s about creating a moment of sovereignty—before the noise of the day begins.
4. I Move My Body with Intention (Even If I Don’t Love It)
Here’s the truth: I don’t love strength training.
But I do value what it gives me.
So I focus on movement that builds strength without dread—like bodyweight circuits or simple weighted exercises at home. No gym required. No shame if it’s short.
After 50, muscle isn’t about aesthetics.
It’s about aging well, staying mobile, and protecting my bones, joints, and metabolism.
I don’t do it to chase a look.
I do it to invest in my future self.
5. I Power Down Before Bed
Evenings are sacred to me now.
That means no screens at least one hour before bed. I turn off devices, dim the lights, and let my body and mind slowly downshift.
Instead of scrolling, I might read, stretch, journal, or just breathe.
It’s a small act of discipline that pays off with better sleep, better mood, and better mornings.
Good sleep isn’t just a luxury—it’s foundational healing.
Why These 5 Habits Matter More Than Ever
I’m 54. And every year that passes, I’m more grateful for the habits I’ve built—because they do more than protect my health.
They protect my energy, my presence, and my peace.
They remind me that healing isn’t a destination. It’s a rhythm.
I’m not trying to be perfect. I’m practicing being intentional.
Because I am a Habit Healer.
And I know that at any moment, I’m just one healing habit away.
As a retired physician at 75, these are all good, to which I would add: 1. Start every day with prayer and asking for God‘s wisdom and grace; 2. Reading his Word regularly, if not daily, at the beginning of the day. 3. Asking for a spirit of service, not selfishness. While I have not always followed my own advice, these things become increasingly important as I grow older.
Thank you so much Dr Marbas! I usually only eat one meal a day and really don't think I could handle your smoothie. LOL. I've actually had a wonderful day. It was because of interaction with people. I have a wonderful friend and neighbor. She asked for a favor today and I was thrilled to be able to help her. She was the one who knew I was in shock after my husband died and she drove me to make arrangements and drove me to the funeral. She started feeding me. I had dropped to 97 pds and I think she worried. Do you know she still feeds me on holidays and every couple of weeks? I just don't feel like cooking anymore. Then I spent about 15 or 20 minutes talking to my UPS delivery driver. A funny and delightful younger man. I learned more about his replacement driver than about him, or him me. But it was nice just having a conversation with someone. I do have great neighbors. I plan to have container gardens as soon as it warms up. I love flowers and used to have a rose garden that I tended every morning. I'm just going on and on, I apologize for that. It's just that's it's the best day I've had in over a year.