The Habit Healers Mindset

The Habit Healers Mindset

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The Habit Healers Mindset
The Habit Healers Mindset
When You Feel Stuck in Every Way

When You Feel Stuck in Every Way

What to do when your mind, body, and heart all say “not today.”

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Laurie Marbas, MD, MBA
Jun 13, 2025
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There are mornings when brushing your teeth feels like a heroic act.

You might look fine. You might even be doing the basics—eating mostly healthy, getting through your day. But underneath, you’re dragging the weight of something invisible.

It’s not one thing. It’s everything. Your thoughts won’t quiet down. Your emotions feel raw. Your body won’t cooperate like it used to.

We don’t talk enough about this kind of stuck.

Not the kind where you’re lazy or uninspired.

The kind where you’re mentally spinning, emotionally flattened, and physically depleted—all at the same time.


I Call It Multidimensional Stuckness

It’s not a clinical term (yet), but it should be. Because being “stuck” isn’t just a mindset. It’s a whole-body, whole-life experience. Here’s how I think of it:

  • Mental stuckness sounds like looping thoughts. “What’s wrong with me?” “Why can’t I figure this out?” “Will it always be like this?”

  • Emotional stuckness feels like defeat, even when you’re trying. You feel heavy, irritable, numb—or all three.

  • Physical stuckness can be pain, fatigue, illness, or injury. But it can also just be the sense that your body is slowing you down when your heart wants to go.

And here’s the kicker: these aren’t separate silos. They feed each other. Your thoughts affect your mood. Your mood affects your body. Your body reinforces your thoughts.

It’s not a lack of willpower.

It’s an entangled system—and the longer it loops, the harder it is to break.


The Comment That Made Me Stop and Feel

A reader left a comment on one of my recent articles. They shared a story of medical delays, a missed diagnosis, and eventually, the loss of a limb. The part that stayed with me wasn’t the medical injustice or even the physical loss.

It was this line at the end:

“There are different ways and degrees of being stuck. Physical. Emotional. Mental.”

That line sat in my chest like a stone.

Because most of the world only sees one layer. They see the wheelchair, the cast, the weight gain, the “unmotivated” behavior. But the truth is deeper. Being stuck in your body is hard. Being stuck in your mind while you’re stuck in your body? That’s another level.


The Marbella Wake-Up Call

Earlier this year, I broke my ankle just days before a trip to Spain. I didn’t cancel. I went—to Marbella—wheelchair and all.

But let me tell you, traveling in a wheelchair when you’re used to walking 4 to 5 miles a day is humbling.

I couldn’t move like I wanted. Couldn’t explore freely. Couldn’t feel like myself.

It wasn’t just the injury—it was the disorientation. I was grieving the version of me that felt capable, strong, independent. And I was caught in a swirl of thoughts: How long will it take to heal? What if I can’t walk like before? What happens to everything I’ve built if I can’t move the way I used to?

That’s multidimensional stuckness.
And it doesn’t wait for your permission to arrive.


The Real Cost of Delay

If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll get serious when I feel better,” or “I’ll start once things calm down,” I want to gently interrupt that narrative.

The longer you wait to interrupt the loop, the tighter it wraps around you.

Here’s the truth: You won’t think your way out of stuckness.

You have to act your way out.
Tiny, concrete, defiant action.

Not grand gestures. Not resolutions.

Something as small as:

  • Getting dressed even when no one will see you.

  • Walking for 3 minutes instead of scrolling.

  • Writing down the thought that’s spinning instead of letting it own you.

  • Moving one thing from “someday” to “today.”

These small acts don’t solve everything.
But they signal something important to your brain: “We are not stuck forever.”

And that’s where it begins to shift.


What You Need Is a Map—Not a Miracle

When I finally jogged again after my injury, I didn’t even make it a quarter mile. I stopped—not because I couldn’t go farther, but because I didn’t need to prove anything that day.

That wasn’t failure. That was trust, rebuilding itself.

You don’t need to go back to who you were before everything shifted.

You need a way forward from where you are now—with the body you have, the energy you have, the emotional weight you’re carrying.

And that begins with clarity. With naming where you’re stuck—not to shame it, but to finally stop carrying it blind.

Because once you can see it, you can start to move with it.

Even slowly.

Even gently.

And especially when it feels like no one else sees how hard you’re trying.

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