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Missy Nemeth's avatar

I love this. Thank you!!

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AvaR's avatar

beautifully written 💖 thank you for sharing 🙏✨

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Laurie Marbas, MD, MBA's avatar

Thank you for reading!

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Natalie Perez's avatar

I LOVE being 56!! I love who I am right now. And if others disagree with me or just don't like me, that's fine. This wasn't always the case for me. I took everything as a personal attack and stressed about it all. Not any more! Life's too short.

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Laurie Marbas, MD, MBA's avatar

Nothing like turning 50 to wake you up! I agree.

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Anne's avatar

Learning and forgiving. Thank you for honing it down so simply. I’ve been feeling stuck and been feeling shame in my 40s; coming to the realization that i want less of work hustle and more of living. I haven’t been able to reconcile both but I think that reflecting on learning and forgiving will make things clearer for me so I can move forward.

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Cristina's avatar

"The frustration, the stuckness, the self-doubt—they’re not signs you’re failing. They’re signals." This really resonates with me, the idea of signals, not signs, how important is your perspective. Thanks for this article, from someone on her forties that was already asking "if this was everything"

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RG she/her's avatar

Wow 🤩 needed the part about forgiveness today x

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Britta's avatar

I very much liked the article, but I believe that it isn’t always so simple to actually KNOW yourself that well. Especially in your 30s, you tend to not see the small frustrations or not take them seriously, because you just WANT to meet your own and other’s expectations too much. I’ve recently been to a 10-day Vipassana meditation retreat, and I understood that it’s really about the capacity of your mind, and that this is something that needs to be trained (for most of us).

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Roriedo's avatar

Brilliant questions thank you. In my embodied work I had found the question « what tension or holding is not serving me and can I let go of it right now» of course realizing and accepting that it may not be the moment right now!

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Corri Windsor-Stevens's avatar

Excellent advice! This 60something is sharing this with her younger friends! 💓

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Fabiola's avatar

Needed this at this exact moment, thank you!

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A Brighter Shade of Beige's avatar

Great article! I like how the two directed questions come from a place of personal accountability

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Donna Thew's avatar

What a wonderful explanation ♥️ This is my current focus as I approach 60. It’s never too late. Thank you 😊

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- B's avatar

Thank you. I needed to read this today.

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Peggy Hulstine's avatar

Aging continues beyond being 50s. Don't limit yourself by thinking living stops by 60, or learning, or growing ceases, or self awareness and forgiveness is discontinued. Don't reduce older women to insignicance .

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Cynthia Morris's avatar

With respect, I generally refuse to read things with headlines that spark urgency like ‘before it’s too late.’ In case this is of use to you in your writing to women in their 50s like me.

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Laurie Marbas, MD, MBA's avatar

Hopefully, the quality of the article would speak for itself and relay the need for the urgency. If not, appreciate you stopping by.

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LaurenJane's avatar

This was such a lovely lesson. Forgiving yourself is so difficult yet so important. Once I was able to do that, my life became a lot easier and more joyful. Thanks so much for sharing.

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